Women Who Abandon Motherhood Marriage and Leave
Your Children Behind
![Rahna Reiko Rizzuto, author of "Hiroshima in the Morning." (Photo: Goodreads.com)](Women%20Who%20Abandon%20Motherhood%20Marriage%20and%20their%20Children_files/image002.jpg "Rahna Reiko Rizzuto, author of "Hiroshima in the Morning." (Photo: Goodreads.com)")
Rahna Reiko Rizzuto, author of "
This woman is the poster child of 1970’s feminism. Burn your bra, Motherhood, Marriage and
raising children at home slavery and bondage.
While this woman wants to glorify her “Choice” the public’s view on her
selfish self centered and self aggrandizing behavior has soured since feminisms
heyday.
Rahna
Reiko Rizzuto says that she
never wanted to be a mother (Or wife).
Unfortunately we are long on experience
with the poisonous attitudes espoused by Ms Rizzuto. In 1981 when we married in bible school to
our consternation many of these things were hidden and buried in our former
wife. It was only after the knot was
tied step by step and level by level as She began to manifest these things
leaving us completely mystified as to how a “Born-Again Spirit–Filled Believer
could act up and act out in such angry, and at times vicious and nasty ways?
At the time we had never seen of nor heard
of such things and when we would speak of her behavior to older believers and
people in the ministry we were treated as if we were grossly exaggerating
things or making incidents up.
Beginning around the year 2000 things
began to change in the church as a number of women that had been raised and or
were influenced by 1970’s feminists and by feminists embedded in the education
system. Once these women grew up and got
married and had children suddenly in all quarters the church began to have a
crisis in their young married couples – leading to the divorce crisis that
continues to this day.
We have spoken before about those women, who
by design become broken household single mother families, as well as focusing
on their evil fruits instilled in their children, and in the churches they
fill.
Here we are speaking of a more cruel and
heartless being than these feminized house breaking women. One that has no love or feelings for the
children they bore. One
that puts the sword to their household and marriage as well as casts their
children off as if they are of no value. These do not do it because of abject
poverty. These do so for personal gain,
social gain, or profession gain. The evil
fruits thereof we had been made to taste of three decades ago.
In the purposes of God we suffered many
things in those days so that we might be able to speak to the divorce and
broken household crisis that has since befallen the church.
2 Corinthians 4:11-12 For we which live are always delivered unto
death for Jesus' sake, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in
our mortal flesh. So then death worketh in us, but
life in you.
Yes, we have in more recent days by the
purposes of God have been made to suffer sickness and great infirmity unto entering
into great physical and at times mental weakness, and being made a partaker of being
handicapped. This being the path and the school God has chosen for us we
rejoice and abound in Christ even here.
Out of which we are able to share the riches and life of Jesus Christ with
you.
"I had this idea that motherhood was this really all-encompassing
thing," she explained on the Today
Show, where she was talking about her new memoir, "Hiroshima
in the Morning." "I was afraid of being swallowed up by
that." Translate this as: She was afraid she would be trapped into being a housewife for the rest
of her life. Many feminized women today feel this same way, so they do not
marry at all. Here though you have a
woman that gets married and has two children and then has an epiphany that she
does NOT want to be a wife, mother or parent.
Ten years ago, when her sons were 5 and
3, Rizzuto received a fellowship to spend six months
in
Now, Rizzuto is an author and a faculty member at Goddard College
in Vermont, where she teaches in creative writing. (Today
as a failed writer – [As she can not earn a living doing exactly what she
abandoned everything to go and do] she remain unrepentant and unapologetic to
her former husband and former children) Her boys are
teenagers—and, she says, they're fine. (This
is a very passive, removed remark) In fact, their relationship not only
survived her leaving, but "has improved."
(This also is a very passive removed remark demonstrating her
heart is a stone cold as it was a decade later. )
"I had to leave my children to find
them," she writes in an essay at
Salon.com. "In my part-time motherhood, I get concentrated
blocks of time when I can be that 1950s mother we idealize who was waiting in
an apron with fresh cookies when we got off the school bus and wasn't too busy
for anything we needed until we went to bed. I go to every parent-teacher
conference; I am there for performances and baseball games."
1950s mother (Delusional
-- ) she describes as ideal had to cope with parenthood 24/7, she
didn't get to pick and choose which parts to be present for. The idea that a
mother could love her children and still choose to leave them to pursue her own
goals is the antithesis of being a 'Tiger
Mother'—Amy Chua ignited a fiery debate with the release of her book
about being a perfection-demanding Eastern-style parent, omnipresent in her
daughters' lives. It also goes against our culture's definition of motherhood.
But it shines a light on a glaring double standard: When a man chooses not to
be a full-time parent, it's acceptable—or, at least,
accepted. But when a woman decides to do
so, it's abandonment. (Consider that the husband
is cast out of the house, and that judges routinely give custody to wives no
matter how unfit they might be. This is why this is rightly viewed as
abandonment.)
The decision isn't an easy one to make, no matter how you feel about parenting.
"It took me about a year to decide once the idea came to me,"
says Talyaa Liera. In 2008,
she chose to move 3,000 miles away from three of her four children (her oldest is an adult and out on her
own). "At the time I was a heavily involved, attachment-parenting
Waldorf mom. I did the whole family bed, breastfeeding-into-toddlerhood,
baby-wearing thing. I was at home with them for 10 years before their father
and I split up, and stayed at home after that, trying to create a writing career to support myself."
After a lengthy custody battle and two years of joint custody, she
realized that her ex-husband (a pilot with an erratic schedule) wasn't going to
change, and her situation wasn't going to change, unless she decided to change
things for herself. "I realized
that by being so nurturing, I was in some ways keeping my children from growing
to their potential," she says (This is 180 degrees from what she
previously stated concerning her “Epiphany” and .
"We talked about it for months and we prepared together, not really
knowing what being 3,000 miles apart might look like or feel like."
When the time came to get in her packed car and drive away, she says, she felt
"very mixed."
"Yes, there is a sense of relief. I would be remiss if I did not
admit that," she says candidly. But there was also pain: "I used to
avoid Target, for instance, because it made me think of shopping for my
daughter Serena. Little moments like that, and everything comes flooding
in."
Now a spiritual adviser who writes at
Polaris Rising, Liera wrote about her
experiences as a non-custodial parent at Literary Mama
and Parenting Without a Manual. Her children are 15, 11, and 7
now and, after more than two years of long-distance parenting, Liera says she misses them but feels very connected to
them. "Now we stay in touch by phone, IM, Skype a few times a
week," she says. "I hear about their lives and give support." (All
of this is utter fantasy on the part of this woman. 3,000 mile parenting???
As a writer she has a way of dressing up this corpse, making it sound O so normal, and O so mainstream.)
"I have been a mother since I was 20," she points out. "I
did not have the life a normal 20 year old would have. While I don't regret
that, I knew that I now have the opportunity to reconnect with who I might have
been then, but with all the tools and skill sets I have learned through
motherhood. I have the unique opportunity most women don't get to have, of
being able to truly create the life I wish to have, do something in the world
that makes a difference, and model this kind of independence for my
children."
After Amy Chua's story
went viral, many women said they felt they needed to adopt a bit of the tiger mom
mentality, that maybe they were a little to lenient with their kids. In any
case, it's evident that there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to
motherhood. But does striking out on your own or being a "Hiroshima
Mom" take free-range
parenting to an extreme?
"This is the question people will ask me. The question that curls, now, in
the dark of the night," Rizzuto writes in "